Why Men Love Bitches
Sherry Argov has accomplished something very rare to the human race, a guidebook specifically designed to help transform women from “doormats to dream girls.” Why Men Love Bitches has become a national bestseller, giving a fresh insight into the dos and don’ts of a relationship.
Sherry Argov has accomplished something very rare to the human race, a guidebook specifically designed to help transform women from “doormats to dream girls.” Why Men Love Bitches has become a national bestseller, giving a fresh insight into the dos and don’ts of a relationship.
According to Argov, a woman can be one of two things: a so called “nice girl” or a “bitch.” The assumption would of course be that a woman would prefer to be the nice girl. In today’s society, a bitch is recognized as a derogatory term. Argov however embraces it, giving the term a positive twist. Argov describes a bitch as someone who is “kind yet strong…she knows what she wants but won’t compromise herself to get it.” The nice girl on the other hand is “the woman who overcompensates…[she] gives blindly because she wants…for her attentions to be reciprocated.”
Many girls have been in the nice girl’s shoes at least once in their life. They believe that how they behave is what their boyfriend wants, when in fact it may not. After hundreds of interviews, Argov found that over 90 percent of men agreed that they would fall for a bitch over a nice girl. According to Argov, men want to find someone who makes them work for what they want, as if to be rewarded for their hard work and effort. Furthermore, such a girl would not change who she is for a man.
Reade Carrathers and Jerome Manley, both students at Bloomsburg University, had the same mentality as the men interviewed by Argov. “I like a classy kind of girl who owns their own,” said Manley. Carrathers described his type of girl as “someone who thinks for herself.” Carrather’s later went on to state that he preferred a girl who would make him work for her affection, because “then she would have made other guys work for it [as well]. Basically she respects herself.”
If all evidence points to men falling for woman for who they are, why do we find it so necessary to become something else?
Nicole Baruch, a senior at Bloomsburg talked about her experiences with a past boyfriend and why she felt she was the “nice girl.” “My confidence and self-esteem were really low so I thought that the only way to keep somebody was to focus on what he wanted, instead of what I wanted.” Baruch also added, “I put him before everything else.”
Since then, Baruch has ended her relationship and took some time to re-evaluate what went wrong. As an owner and fan of “Why Men Love Bitches,” Baruch has started a new relationship and is confident she has learned from past mistakes. “Too much emphasis is on needing a boyfriend… it should be on relying on yourself, being an independent woman.” Baruch also mentioned, “ You can’t be with yourself if you don’t know who you are.” When asked about things that have changed from her last relationship, and her current one, Baruch commented, “I just kind of let things happen, I try not to think about things too much.”
There are many women who still believe they must act the way that Baruch once had. They fail at relationships and pine over what went wrong, never really understanding the problems with their actions. It is for this reason that “Why Men Love Bitches” was written. No woman should feel like they have to be more then they are to keep a man, and Argov gives you the necessary tools and advice to overcome such thinking.
I recommend “Why Men Love Bitches” to any woman who is looking for love, whether in a relationship or not. Even if that person is doing well with their boyfriend, this book may have some added tips that could help them overcome obstacles that have yet to come, or just give them an insight to what really goes through their boyfriends mind.
