Everyone wants to know what the opposite sex is thinking on Valentine’s Day. Did he get you a gift? Where does she want to be taken out? Do they even enjoy celebrating the holiday? Here’s some crucial questions answered by two Bloomsburg University students, and you may be surprised by some of the answers.
What are your general feelings about Valentine’s Day?
Boy: To be honest I am not the biggest fan of Valentine’s Day. Of course when you don’t have that special someone to share it with it is never any fun. Simply walking around all day and being reminded constantly by the acts of love around you that you are alone can be kind of upsetting. When you do have that valentine to spend the day with it is special and can be very romantic. But personally I feel that if you need a national holiday to remind you to be romantic and show acts of love to your significant other that is kind of sad.
Girl: Obviously if you have someone special on Valentine’s Day, it’s nice and romantic. But if you don’t, it usually ends with you making something chocolate for yourself and watching an action packed thriller. Either way, the holiday can be fun. If you are single, just don’t mope around on the big day and be miserable, it’s just one day out of the year. No one likes a buzz kill and acting like that won’t get you any dates. If you do have someone special, just make sure they know you’re thinking about them and both of you will be better off.
What’s your idea of the perfect date?
Boy: I can’t say I have ever been on the “perfect” date and I’m not sure there is such a thing, but I think every date should be something that allows you to interact and talk. As cliché as it is, I always disliked going to the movies as a date because you don’t actually get to spend time with the other person. I am also a fan of doing anything that doesn’t involve spending a lot of money. Sometimes the most romantic and laughter filled dates can be simple days in the park. One of my personal favorite things to do with someone is to cook a meal together. It is a perfect opportunity for conversation and allows you to work together on something that if done right you both will really love and be impressed, but if you end up burning it all it will do is create a memory and bring laughs.
Girl: Booze and sex, nothing more, nothing less. I’m just kidding; I have actually been on many perfect dates. Anytime I’m with someone I really care about, it’s perfect. We don’t have to go anywhere or do anything, in fact, I’d prefer to not spend money on a meal I’ll enjoy for an hour. Just spending time with someone special is all the date I need. This year, I’ll be with some of my best friends, and that’s the perfect date for me (maybe not perfect, but it’s as good as it gets).
What do you expect as a gift?
Boy: I’ve always thought the best gifts are ones that you couldn’t go out and get the same thing for someone else. How much money is spent is irrelevant. It should be something that thought and time was put into and is specific to your relationship. I also loved tickets to something they love. Even if it is someone you don’t enjoy, not only are you giving a gift but also you’re setting up a date at the same time for the both of you. I never really expected much on Valentine’s Day, but it is always nice to get a handmade card or something that shows they were thinking about you. The simplest things, such as a back massage and alone time, can be the best. One thing I have definitely learned over the years after is there is one golden rule about gifts: The best gift is the unexpected gift. Although this can’t be used on Valentine’s Day, I’ve learned nothing brings a smile to someone’s face more than showing up at their door randomly with cookies, their favorite candy, or leaving a bouquet of flowers for them to come home to.
Girl: I actually get really uncomfortable when people buy me things. Don’t get me wrong, I definitely enjoy being spoiled and flowers every once and a while are certainly welcomed, but I just don’t like it if people go all out on one day. I’d much rather get something that either we both can share or that he put thought into. Gifts about inside jokes are always fun because it shows he pays attention and it makes me laugh. Instead of a gift, all I want is a “Happy Valentine’s Day” and a funny joke, I love jokes.
Do you place importance on the holiday?
Boy: Like I said earlier, I don’t really place that much importance on Valentine’s Day because I truly believe that couples should do something thoughtful and romantic more often without the necessity of a holiday.
Girl: Not in the slightest. I think because Valentine’s Day is planned and you know its coming, it kind of takes the fun out of it. People put so much build up on the holiday that it rarely lives up to some expectations. If you don’t put pressure on it, I’m sure it would be a lot more enjoyable.
Do you take the holiday into the boudoir?
Boy: Taking the day into the “boudoir” is definitely important. There is nothing more crucial to a relationship than an innate physical connection. The mood is already set for you, so why not take advantage of the situation.
Girl: I’d like to take every day into the boudoir. I definitely think that staying on top of your physical relationship with someone is very important (pun intended).
Whether you’re male or female, everyone has certain expectations for Valentine’s Day. While some are big and others are small, the most important thing is that both of you share the same expectations; otherwise, I can guarantee there will be fights.