Taking an Ex Back: Yes or No?

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Saying goodbye to someone can be one of the hardest things to do, but most of the time, saying goodbye to an ex is for the best.  I’ve known several people who either attempted to get back together with their exes or be friends with them.  Getting back together with your ex is normally not a good idea.  It does work out sometimes, but most of the time it leads to more drama and heartbreak.

For my friend Cassie, getting back together with her ex worked out.  She dated him through most of high school until they went their separate ways to college and broke up.  She dated someone new for nine months until they broke up and then she took her ex back.  For her, taking back her ex worked out, but for myself and my two other friends it didn’t have such a happy ending.

Lindsey dated a guy for three years and they broke up four times during their relationship.  The first time was because he cheated on her and the next two times was because she couldn’t trust him.  Finally, when she broke up with him for good it was because she knew she could never trust him again and ultimately wasn’t happy anymore.  She also made the decision that they couldn’t work as friends either

Overall trying to get back with an ex is a bad idea.  If they cheat once they’ll cheat again.  If they don’t make you happy to begin with they probably won’t.  It’s not always easy to let go of someone you really cared about but in the end its more about you being happy.

If you’re like my friend Michala who dated her ex for five years before they broke up. She  didn’t talk to him for six months after the break up.  When they finally did talk, she realized that their friendship wouldn’t work out because he would never change. He would never make her happy in a relationship or in a friendship.

Don’t get me wrong, sometimes people can be friends or even get back together with their exes, it is just very rare.  It’s hard to let go of that special someone, but at some point you have to let them go and move on.  It will only help you reach bigger and better things and finally realize what you deserve.

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