Those who have left their high school sweethearts followed them to college or even began to date on-campus, know that a relationship presents many challenges.
Now-a-days there seems to be relationship advice everywhere. Blogs about how to make long distance relationships work and how to find love on-campus dominate the Internet.
Even with access to such advice, maintaining a relationship is difficult because a healthy relationship takes hard work and effort from both parties. College students trying to make an on-campus relationship successful know this challenge all too well.
Kaiti Vogel, 19, and Nick Emery, 18, have been together four years, starting as high school sweethearts. They chose to attend Bloomsburg together after looking at different colleges. “We got a good feeling about Bloomsburg. It had the perfect programs for the both of us,” Emery said.
Attending college together has changed their relationship. “We got to know each other on a deeper level,” said Vogel. “It is easier not having to deal with parents or curfews. We have learned how to communicate better.”
A relationship help website, girlsaskguys.com, gave over five cases in which high school couples who attend the same college failed in the end. This is not always true. Vogel and Emery are confident that their relationship will last. “We have grown as people and grown up together, and that is why our relationship works so well,” said Vogel.
For those who didn’t come to campus with their high school sweethearts, maybe they met someone at Bloomsburg. Does starting over make a relationship easier? Pat Reilly, 19, and Meredith Verrillo, 18, started dating on campus. They met while doing laundry and have been dating on and off for the last six months.
“Campus relationships are easy,” Reilly said. “You have the convenience of seeing each other, plus no parents’ rules to follow.” Another online blog, Kampusrelationships.blogspot, comments on why relationships that start on college campuses often fail, “Most people want to have fun and nothing more.” Many times, this creates a conflict.
Reilly’s relationship faces this conflict. He says that with a lack of privacy and so much time being spent together, he often needs space. However, Reilly is certain that his relationship will last. “There is no end in sight for us. When you meet someone as great as I have, it is dumb not to be confident in your relationship,” he said. While all relationships do not continue or start on campus, many students are faced with the challenge of a long distance relationship. An online publication by the National Communication Association, “Communication Currents,” states that long distance relationships (LDRs) are fairly common among college students. LDRs make up 25 to 50 percent of dating relationships on campuses. Robert Falvo, 19, was in the tenth grade when he and Brianna Dushok, 20, began dating at Pittston High School in 2009. Dushok graduated a year before Falvo, turning their relationship long-distance. “There is nothing easy (about an LDR),” Falvo said. “The hard part about it is the distance, partying and school work.” Making a relationship work takes time and effort. Relationships will never be as we see them depicted in the latest romance movie.
Those in a relationship, fresh off of a break up, or just playing the field, must remember what is meant to be will be. That’s one thing everyone can really rely on.