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How Soon Is Too Soon? Going Home with Him for Thanksgiving

College is about pursuing careers as well as meeting new people. A lot of freshmen come into college with the hopes of fulfilling their dreams while trying to find the person that they want to spend the rest of their life with.  For me everything just fell into place.  I came to college with the expectations that I would gain knowledge that would help me with my career while I also expected I would meet “the one.”  I felt confident when I met my boyfriend the first day I moved into the dorms.  I couldn’t be happier and I couldn’t feel any luckier. Everything has been going great until he asked me to come home with him for Thanksgiving.

Going home with someone you’re in a relationship with is a major step.  This is saying that the relationship is getting serious.  There is a lot of pressure that comes along with meeting the parents and the whole family.  We have only been dating for a few months and I feel like it’s a little too soon to be going home with him for Thanksgiving.  I like him a lot and I do want to show him I care about him but I’m not sure that this is the right way to show him I care about him. There are a few things I should consider before I decide if I should go home with him.

Meeting the family could be a rewarding experience.  This could help us further our relationship. If we decide to become serious, this is an opportunity for his family to get to know me.  This is the time when I pray that his family likes me and approves of me dating their son.  We like each other a lot and going home with him for Thanksgiving could make us become closer.

Spending the holiday with the family could also turn out to be a disaster.  This is a major step in any relationship and going home with him could turn out to be a big mistake.  I appreciate the fact that he wants me to spend the holiday with him but I don’t know if I’m ready for this.  Quite honestly I’m not sure if we’re ready for this as a couple.  We have only been dating for a few months and I don’t want to rush into anything.  I like how everything is between us and I’m afraid that Thanksgiving with his family could ruin that.

Thanksgiving should be spent with family. I need to consider my own family when making this decision.  This is my first semester away from home and I do not get the chance to see my family often. My parents miss me dearly and would be upset if I told them that I’m spending the holiday with my boyfriend and his family rather than spending it with them.

It is tough to decide whether or not it is a good idea to go home with him for the holiday.  Meeting his parents and spending time with his family can strengthen our relationship. On the other hand, Thanksgiving can be a deal breaker for the both of us. I also have to consider my own family and how my family would feel about me not spending Thanksgiving with them and that’s why I think we should compromise.  The best solution is to meet up with him over the break rather on Thanksgiving. This way I’m still respecting his invite and I still have a chance to meet his family.  There is a lot less pressure meeting his family over the weekend rather Thanksgiving day and I still get to spend Thanksgiving with my family.

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