My boyfriend and I have been going out for a while now and I love him! My issue is that I sometimes still think about “what if” situations with my (kinda sorta) ex. I would never cheat but at the same time I don’t want to live with regrets.
How do I get my ex out of my head?
Stay or Stray”
Dear Stray or Stay,
First of all, please remember why he is your ex in the first place. You moved on for a reason, am I right?
Secondly, are you looking out of your relationship because you’re bored or because you genuinely wonder what could’ve been with your ex? Most often we back track to things we find comfort in because it’s so easy. How do you tell the difference? Well let’s substitute your ex for the cute kid in your night class; would you let him shoot his shot?
Anyway, there’s probably a reason you’re with your current boo now. You have to ask yourself, is it worth it to risk losing his trust and what you have now just to entertain someone that it already hasn’t worked out with?
Boyfriends are a lot like shoes. Why go back to an old, worn down pair you know won’t match your outfit rather than that new pair you just started taking out of the box.
Now, after considering all of that; do you still want to consider giving your ex the time of day? (Your answer should be hell no!) Be grateful for what you have now and what you learned from what you once had.
Look forward not backward!
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